We love y’all—we really do. But with over 50,000 women in this group, it’s safe to say moderating it all is a full-time job. So when a post doesn’t get approved, it’s never personal. We promise!
Yet, we still get the messages:
“Why was my post declined?”
“Y’all must have something against me.”
“But this is important!”
“I didn’t break any of the rules.”
Sis… we get it. But if we approved every single post we received daily, this group would go from community space to chaotic marketplace real quick.
We created these guidelines to protect the vibe, value, and integrity of this space. So let’s walk through some of the most common reasons your post may have been declined, so you know what’s up and how to avoid it in the future.
1. Selling or Giving Away Items (Outside of Sunday)
We love a good closet clean-out, but we have to keep things organized.
Selling or giving away gently used items is only allowed on Sundays—period. We say this all the time, yet we still see posts trying to sell on Tuesday mornings like we won’t notice.
We see it. We decline it. We have to keep it moving.
2. Anonymous Posts (That Aren’t Actually Sensitive)
Anonymous posting is meant for truly personal, vulnerable, or safety-sensitive topics—not for things like:
“I don’t want my nail tech to see this…”
“Don’t want my child’s babysitter to know I’m asking for someone new…”
That’s not what anonymous is for. Be bold, reword your question, or search the group for answers. Nine times out of ten, it’s already been discussed!
3. Business Posts Without an Ad
If you’re promoting a business, service, freebie, or event, it counts as advertising—and we only allow that with a purchased ad.
Yes, even if it’s free.
Yes, even if it’s for a good cause.
Yes, even if it’s “to hurry and sell my house.”
This keeps things fair for the businesses who’ve invested in ad space and supports the community we’re building.
4. Repeat Topics (Yes, Even If You Mention Your Insurance)
If you’re asking for a:
- Nail tech
- Hair Stylist
- Therapist
- OB-GYN
- PCP
- Dentist
- Dog groomer
- ANY of the above (and more)
…please know it’s already been asked. Like, hundreds of times.
You can search the group for those answers using keywords or hashtags. Including your insurance doesn’t magically make it unique—most providers take the major ones anyway.
5. Rehoming Animals / Dog Breeding
This has always been a hard no for our group.
We don’t allow animal rehoming or breeding posts—not only because it’s controversial and often mishandled, but also because Facebook’s terms prohibit it.
There are local animal groups for that kind of post, but this group isn’t the place.
6. Posting Events (Without Using the Thread)
We love to see what’s happening in Lex, but event posts belong in our pinned event thread. We update it each month, and you can find it by searching:
#whatshappeninginlex or #eventsthread
Want your event to stand out more? That’s what ad space is for.
7. Job Search Posts
We get dozens of “Anyone hiring?” posts a day. If we approved them all, they’d take over the entire group.
We recommend joining local job groups (and spoiler alert: we’re putting together a job-focused blog post soon to help you out!).
8. Rental Searches
Same deal as job posts—rental requests are constant.
And while we understand how real the housing struggle is, the volume of these posts would flood the feed. There are dedicated rental groups for this, and we’ll be dropping a blog post soon to help you spot legit listings.
9. No Ticket or Vehicle Sales (Read That Again)
We know it’s tempting to post last-minute tickets or that car you’re trying to sell—but we do not allow ticket or vehicle sales in the group.
Why? Because unfortunately, they’re some of the most common sources of scams and drama.
We’ve seen it all, and we’d rather not see it again.
BUT—there’s a workaround:
We do have designated threads for UK ticket sales and Keeneland tickets. So if you’re trying to sell within those categories, make sure you’re posting in the right place. These threads are pinned to the featured section of the group or you can search the hashtags #uktickets or #keeneland.
10. No Dry Begging, GoFundMe’s, or Asking for Money
We say this with love: this isn’t the place to ask for donations, handouts, or “a little help until payday.”
We’ve seen too many situations where people take advantage of the kindness of this group, and it’s not fair to the members who genuinely want to help when someone is truly in need.
That includes:
- GoFundMe links
- Venmo/Cash App requests
- Subtle “dry begging” (you know the type)
We’re a community built on support, not solicitation. If you’re struggling, there are local resources that we’ve put together in a downloadable PDF for you—we just ask that you don’t use this group as a funding platform.
11. No Medical or Legal Advice Requests
We know you mean well when you post things like:
“Not looking for medical advice, but…”
“Anyone know what this rash might be?”
“I’m not asking for legal advice, but can someone tell me what I should do?”
Here’s the thing: you are asking for medical or legal advice—just with a disclaimer.
And even if the group has nurses, doctors, or lawyers in it, this isn’t a safe or appropriate place to crowdsource answers about your health or legal situation. It also isn’t fair to the professionals in the group that you’re seeking free advice from.
We care about your safety, and we want you to get real, professional advice from qualified individuals—not a Facebook comment section.
We Know It’s Frustrating—But Please Don’t Repost
We get it—you really wanted that post to go through. But reposting the same thing over and over won’t change the outcome. If we declined it the first time, we’ll decline it again.
We always leave feedback when we decline something.
So check your notifications—it’s not hard to miss.
Before You Post Again…
Please, take a minute to review the group rules and search the group first. It makes everyone’s life easier—especially yours.
We’re not trying to be mean. We’re just doing our best to keep this group helpful, clean, and drama-free. If your post was declined, it’s nothing personal. It’s just us protecting the community we’ve all built together.
Thanks for understanding—and for being here.
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